10 Questions To Help You Deal With Problems
Posted on July 5, 2008
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Here is a technique to release yourself from being stuck in a problem, and help you find its gift instead. Use the following list of questions and write the answers in your book of goals and dreams. You may find this method valuable for many issues now and in the future.
1. What is bothering me?
2. What are the effects of this issue on me—mentally, physically and emotionally?
3. What is the effect of the issue on those around me?
4. What does the issue cause me to do or not do?
5. What are the advantages of these effects, with respect to living my dream?
6. What are the disadvantages of these effects, with respect to living my dream?
7. How would life be different if the issue were gone?
8. Why do I need the issue?
9. What beliefs do I have that explain how this issue might have developed?
10. What are the payoffs for keeping the status quo regarding this issue?
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Deepak Chopra - The Life and Teachings of the Buddha
Posted on July 3, 2008
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3 Ways to Enjoy Better Love-Making
Posted on July 1, 2008
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Having great sex with the person you love is not only a joyous experience, but it is one that can reach new heights and excitement, so long as you understand how to communicate your needs effectively. Below are three ways to help you connect sexually with your partner:
1. Pay attention to the speed and pace at which your body responds to sex. If you are not aroused enough for sexual activity, then let your partner know. Do not be afraid to say what you would like to have happen in order to increase your stimulation.
2. Learn to explain to your partner what you like and what you need in order to be satisfied. Nothing can bring two people’s sexual experiences more closer than communication. Be open and honest. Clarity is key to getting and giving what you want out of sex.
3. If you are moving into new sexual arenas with your partner, keep in mind that it could be difficult. If your spouse or significant other makes a suggestion to you that makes you feel uncomfortable, do not immediately reject him or her. Explain why you are uncomfortable and try to modify things a bit.
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How to feel better through relaxation techniques
Posted on June 29, 2008
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The tried and true foundation for conquering any type of anxiety attack or fear based emotion is through the practice of relaxation. Believe it or not it is physically impossible to have any type of anxiety attack if the mind and body are relaxed. In fact, relaxation works so well that virtually every health care facility in the United States is teaching such techniques.
What are some areas where relaxation techniques have made huge improvements in our lives? Childbirth for example, is made much easier using relaxation. Also, high blood pressure has been greatly reduced for hundreds of thousands of patience through these techniques. And last but not least, even recovering cardiac patients are being instructed by their doctor to use relaxation techniques to reduce stress on their hearts.
There is absolutely no question that we can all reduce our stress levels and anxiety fears by learning the fundamental and easy-to-implement techniques of relaxation. There are many programs on the market through books and tapes that will get you started learning the skill of relaxation.
You can even join up for group teachings in public places, although most people choose to practice privately, especially those men and women with anxiety problems to begin with. But if you are confident and enjoy such group activities, then learning to meditate and relax in a setting of other like minded individuals can be a huge chance for personal growth in the area of relaxation.
Practicing concentrated relaxation is one of the most basic of skills that is taught in any course relating to easing your mind and body for greater comfort and less anxiety. These concentration periods should be practiced no less than one time each day and ranging up to six or more times on a daily basis.
However, it is very important to find out what works best for you. Once you have mastered your personal relaxation technique, you will be able to click your mind and body into total relaxation with the thought of one word, or by speaking out loud one phrase.
This one-word-cue can and will become that powerful of an ignition of relaxation in your life so long as you take the time each day in your life to master your techniques. And it is as skill that you can use over and over again for the rest of your life.
Our favorite stress relief program is called Totally Tranquil by Holothink. Try a free demo on their site - I think you’ll like it.
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Eckhart Tolle, the enormous power of YES
Posted on June 27, 2008
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The Insanity Of Collecting Stuff That We Don’t Need
Posted on June 25, 2008
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The word “collecting” is not the best word to describe this problem. Collecting indicates some order or design which in this case is lacking. What I have in mind is the keen desire to gather lots of things because they “might come in handy someday.” Or to keep them for the sake of the past.
Why do we love to collect so many things and have such a hard time throwing them out? Either we do it for the past or for the future. Certainly it isn’t for the present, since the present is suffering because of all this stuff we are trying to live with.
We feel we have to hold on to things from the past because we are trying to preserve some beautiful memory. The things we keep are attached in our minds to some important person or event in our lives, and we keep them out of respect. This is a particular problem when the person whose things we are keeping has died.
One of my best friends felt compelled to keep several houses full of furniture because they were from the estates of deceased loved ones. The same woman had four closets full of clothes four sizes too big from her admired, deceased mother-in-law, whose memory she wished to preserve. A widow I knew felt that if she threw away anything that had belonged to her husband she would be throwing away part of him. My guess is that anyone who loved us would be the first to urge us to live our lives in the present and not try to hang on to the past.
We also try to keep things for the future - just in case we ever need them. We save for possible needs or emergencies that might come. Don’t sacrifice the present for the future. That’s no healthier than living in the past.
There is freedom in having no more than you need, no more than you can control. But the collecting impulse is hard to control because on the surface it seems so logical. Why not keep that yarn? Someday you may learn to knit, and it will be wonderful to have your own supply already! Why not keep all prescription medicines?
The problem with this thinking is that it just doesn’t work. We gather and gather and gather good things, and some things that are not so good. Soon the pile gets out of control, and we can’t find what we want when we need it. Things control us and our lives. We begin to make adjustments in our way of life to accommodate all the “stuff” we have. We tell ourselves that we can’t throw anything out. We end up with so much that it is a monumental task to clean or organize. I am not saying that everything must go. But the collecting mania has to be taken in hand and controlled.
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James Ray Live - Reticular Activating System
Posted on June 22, 2008
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The Science Behind Feng Shui Lighting
Posted on June 21, 2008
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In part due to the way that it is represented in the media, feng shui is often considered a somewhat mystical or mysterious idea that is difficult to study or to prove. However, laboratory research that some aspects of feng shui have a quantifiably positive effect on attitude and mood. Traditional feng shui practices attempt to create a harmonious environment that helps its occupants happy and relaxed, and studies show that at least some feng shui techniques definitely have science on their side.
Some of the most effective feng shui rules with a scientific basis for their success have to do with lighting, and there is every indication that using feng shui techniques as a way to light your home will prove to be a great decision. If the question is whether lighting your home according to feng shui principles will improve your quality of life, the answer is almost certainly yes. According to the scientific body of knowledge we have on the subject of lighting and emotion, feng shui offers a reasonable and viable method for improving your mood by creating a calming atmosphere with light.
Feng shui strives to help you create a balanced atmosphere, and an important part of achieving that goal is finding lighting solutions that provide visibility without being garish or unpleasantly bright. For this reason, feng shui experts often recommend including multiple sources of soft light rather than a single source of strong, bright light. Science tells us that having multiple light sources in a room allows the eye to see depth and contour more easily, which means optimum visibility. The lighting arrangements that feng shui suggest mimic the naturally multi-sourced light found in the outdoors, which is the kind of lighting situation that humans have evolved to see best in.
When we can see everything in our space, we are more likely to be calm and relaxed for a very simple reason with an evolutionary basis. Although few people in the modern world are consciously afraid of being attacked by a lion or other fierce marauder, our brains are wired to protect us by searching for predators. When there are no blind spots or dark areas nearby, we can be certain that there are no dangerous predators hidden in the vicinity. When you light a room according to the principles
Feng shui tradition dictates that it is important to use a series of soft lights in different areas of the room in order to allow the unhampered flow of positive energy throughout the space. There is no way for science to evaluate whether this goal is achieved or not, but research can tell us that the lighting situation feng shui creates allows for maximum visibility, which in turn promotes relaxation, calm and happiness.
Further Reading:
http://www.weeno.com/art/1099/182.html
http://pa.essortment.com/fengshuitips_rdhi.htm
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The spiritual and emotional side of stress
Posted on April 24, 2008
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The amount of stress that you experience in a certain situation and your ability to process and relieve that stress is determined mostly by your attitude. It is in your attitude toward facing your circumstances and whether you feel isolated, out of control, or at the mercy of fate.
Studies have shown that people who strongly believe in faith are more likely to be able to manage stress better than those who have no belief system. In addition, those who feel a strong spiritual bond to their world find a source of relief and comfort in that relationship as well.
Families who enjoy each other’s company, who enjoy spending their time together, who support each other and provide a secure and safe haven for their members are known to deal with stress???????? ????? ???????? better than those who are distant from their families and go their own way. Those who have a least one good and reliable friend to confide in has more shield against stress that the loner misses out on.
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How We Lose Attraction For The Ones We Love
Posted on April 21, 2008
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Many people are scared to get involved in a relationship for fear that it will not work out. And some people enter a relationship with bringing with them the negativity and fear of losing that other person, which invariably causes strife, because constantly being scared of having it all disappear tends to attract that very outcome. The trouble is though, that if you do not risk anything, you risk even more.
One very common problem between all couples that have been together during any period of time is loosing that attraction for one another. But this tends not so much to be due to physical reasons, but rather stem from other problems within the relationship. When partners do not respect and appreciate their complimentary differences they lose their electricity. In other words they are no longer turned on by each other. Without the polarity, they lose the attraction.
This loss of attraction can occur in two ways: We either suppress our true inner self in an attempt to please our partner, or we try to mold them into our own image. Either strategy, whether repressing ourselves or trying to change our partners, will sabotage the relationship.
Do some individuals actually succeed in “changing” their partners? Yes they do, but the needs of that individual is met for only a short period of time. It’s a very short term strategy. Ultimately there will be no passion within that relationship. For example, David says to Lynn, “Don’t be so emotional, you’re getting upset over nothing.” If she represses her feeling-side in order to please and accommodate David, he feels less friction with her and she wins his love. The short term result appears to be a good and harmonious relationship, but now Jane and Tom will be a few degrees less interested, excited, or attracted to each other.
As this process of gradually suppressing their true selves continues, and more degrees of passion and interest will be lost until they feel almost nothing for each other. They will be friends but experience no passion. The good news is that this process can be reversed; we can learn to find ourselves again without always having to change partners.
Every time you suppress, repress, or deny yourself in order to be loved, you are not loving yourself. You are essentially telling yourself that you are not good enough the way you are. And every time you try to change, alter, or fix your partner, you are sending him the message that he does not deserve to be loved for who he is. These are the conditions under which love dies.
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